A eulogy is one of the most beautiful and heartwarming funeral traditions in the United Kingdom. This part of the funeral ceremony is performed to celebrate the life and memories of the deceased person. It also offers comfort to loved ones and friends as they come to terms with the loss of the person who has spent a meaningful time with them.
Even if the person who died is a family member or a very dear friend, giving a eulogy can be a nerve-wracking situation especially if you are not good with words or speaking in front of many people. Although there is no right or wrong way to give a eulogy, some people find reading poems to be more suitable and practical in these situations. Poems give us the chance to honour and give a touching tribute to our loved ones and show everyone what that person meant to us.
If you are struggling to create your own poem, you may consider reading or citing a funeral poem that reflects what you feel and what you want to say.
Here are some examples of heartfelt and inspiring funeral poems that you can read or use as an inspiration to write your own.
Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep
(Mary Elizabeth Frye – 1930s)
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!)
Love Shines Through
Like a shadow in the moonlight
Like the whisper of the seas
Like the echoes of a melody
Just beyond our reach
In the shadow of our sorrow
Past the whisper of goodbye
Love shines through eternity
A heartbeat from our eye
Of Joy and Sorrow
Then a woman said, ―Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow.
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that hold your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter‘s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which
has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you
are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some of you say, ―Joy is greater than sorrow, and others say, ―Nay, sorrow is the
Greater. But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that
the other is asleep upon your bed.
Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at a standstill and balanced.
When the treasure keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your
joy or your sorrow rise or fall.
Your pain is the breaking of the shell
that encloses your understanding.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its
heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.
And could you keep your heart in wonder
at the daily miracles of your life, your pain
would not seem less wondrous than your joy;
And you would accept the seasons of your
heart, even as you have always accepted
the seasons that pass over your fields.
And you would watch with serenity
through the winters of your grief.
Much of your pain is self-chosen.
It is the bitter potion by which the
physician within you heals your sick self.
Therefore trust the physician, and drink
his remedy in silence and tranquillity:
For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided
by the tender hand of the Unseen,
And the cup he brings, though it burns your lips,
has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter
has moistened with His own sacred tears.
The rain may wash my pain away
The wind may dry my tears
The Summer sun may heal my heart
And time subdue my fears
But nothing in the world below
Or in the Heavens above
Will ever take away
The precious memory of your love.
After Their Death
You might be covered
By eyelids closed
Over your whole being,
Or reach with desperation
For something alive
To hold onto.
Your fingertips will hide
In a fist. No more palms
Open to life.
Humbled, the very ground
Will seem so large. Someday
The earth will own you.
Or you see there’s no time
To waste, and plough
Into previously feared goals.
Try to be patient
If it takes you years
This is the exit from Eden,
When you have chosen life
While wanting to die.
This is the fall that gives
Wisdom, perspective, gratefulness.
It is worth the crawl, back to life.
The Best And Most Beautiful Things In The World
The best and most beautiful
Things in the world cannot
Be seen or even touched.
They must be felt with the heart.
O soft embalmer of the still midnight,
Shutting, with careful
Fingers and benign,
Our gloom-pleas‘d eyes,
Embower‘d from the light,
Enshaded in forgetfulness divine:
O soothest Sleep! if so it please thee, close
In midst of this thine hymn my willing eyes,
Or wait the ―Amen,‖ ere thy poppy throws
Around my bed its lulling charities.
Then save me, or the passed day will shine
Upon my pillow, breeding many woes,–
Save me from curious Conscience,
That still lords
Its strength for darkness,
Burrowing like a mole;
Turn the key deftly
In the oiled wards,
And seal the hushed
Casket of my Soul.
The internet offers a plethora of funeral poem samples that you can read or use as an inspiration to deliver a fitting eulogy to a loved one. However, giving tribute to your deceased loved one is not only limited to poems and other spoken words. They can also be done through special songs, slideshow videos, pre-recorded videos, and other alternative forms.
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